Chitwan, Bhadra 18,
The elderly Bhujel couple, 89-year-old Pabahadur Bhujel and his wife 79-year-old Belimaya, of Dhading, Taparsu, finds it hard to forget about the cave they lived in and still reminisces about the past. They now think of their belongings that they left in the cave before coming to reside in Divyasewa Niketan at Churiyamai-3, Ratomate, Makwanpur. Pabahadur said, “There were oil, spices, salt, some rice and maize and wheat flour in the cave,” and wished to go to the cave to observe the cave as well as bring in their belongings.
After living a lonely life in cave because of poverty, they are now friends with other elderly in the old age home; Bhawanath Pandey, Masinimaya Shrestha, Saraswati Niraula and Tilrupa Gautam. There are other two elderly Lamas there in the ashram. Smoking is prohibited in the ashram; therefore, they want to visit the cave for to quench their thirst of smoking too. “They give us sweets instead of cigarettes,” said Belimaya with chocolate in her hands, “how can this replace the addiction of cigarettes.”
The cave they lived in before was quite open and unsafe. “We have beds and life is more easy and comfortable here; however, we still love the care,” Belimaya said. She continued, “It is hard to forget the place that gave us shelter when we had no place to go.”
They ended up living in the cave of Dhading, Dhaireni, after becoming homeless two years ago. “Someone from our own village bought our land but did not give us a penny,” Pabahadur said, “and we became homeless.”
They do not have to beg for food here in ashram as opposed to when living in the cave. Fulmaya Basnet, another elderly in the ashram cooks for everyone there. Mina Waiba who also looks after the ashram helps everyone out there.
The couple, who had found shelter in the cave after they had nowhere to go, was rescued by Buddhiprasad Regmi of Kathmandu and retired Gurkha, Purnabahadur Gurung, on Bhadra 7, and was rehabilitated at Divyasewa Niketan located in Ratomate, Makwanpur.
The ashram is under construction with an aim to provide shelter to 200 elderly. There are nine elderly now along with the Bhujel couple. The ashram, in the midst of the jungle, is under construction with well facilitated building, hall and hospital according to the Director, Tejram Niraula. After working as an army engineer all his life, he now wants to dedicate his life in social service.
Belimaya, the ninth wife.
It has not been long since Pabahadur and Belimaya met each other. After the death of her husband, it was hard for Belimaya to meet ends while her three children were busy in their own lives. She had to beg for food after not being able to live with them. On the other hand, Pabahadur, still childless even after marrying eight wives, was working alone in mill. “I had soft corner for her when she asked for food every day.” When his Sahu suggested him to live together with her since both of them were alone, he heeded his Sahu’s words, sold his house so as to eat good food as he had no children. Sadly, he got no money out of it.” He further added that he was not given any money telling that the loan taken by his father got nil now. For Belimaya, Pabahadur holds a place higher than the stone god. However, Pabahadur’s favorite is Bishnumaya out of all nine wives. “The first marriage happened when I was still a child. I was unaware about what marriage was and hence it did not work out.” He said, “I married Bishnumaya after liking her. She passed away after 15 years of marriage without bearing any child.” “After that, I married six wives but no one lived more than a year or two.”
Source: Nagarik Daily , September 04, 2013.
Translated by: Janu Rai